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Only a loving person — one who is already loving — can find the right partner.
唯有一個愛著的人,一個已經在愛著的人,能夠找到對的伴侶。

This is my observation: if you are unhappy you will find somebody who is unhappy. Unhappy people are attracted towards unhappy people. And it is good, it is natural. It is good that the unhappy people are not attracted towards happy people; otherwise they would destroy their happiness. It is perfectly okay.

Only happy people are attracted towards happy people.
唯有快樂的人受快樂的人吸引


The same attracts the same. Intelligent people are attracted towards intelligent people; stupid people are attracted towards stupid people.

You meet people of the same plane. So the first thing to remember is: a relationship is bound to be bitter if it has grown out of unhappiness. First be happy, be joyful, be celebrating, and then you will find some other soul celebrating and there will be a meeting of two dancing souls and a great dance will arise out of it.
你遇到的是同層次的人。所以首要記得的一件事情是:一段成長於不快樂中的關係是注定要苦澀的。首先,快樂、喜悅、慶祝,然後你將會遇見另一個慶祝的靈魂,兩個舞動的靈魂相會,偉大的舞蹈便會產生。

Don’t ask for a relationship out of loneliness, no. Then you are moving in a wrong direction. Then the other will be used as a means and the other will use you as a means. And nobody wants to be used as a means! Every single individual is an end unto himself. It is immoral to use anybody as a means.

First learn how to be alone. Meditation is a way of being alone.
先學習如何單獨。靜心,是一種單獨的方法


If you can be happy when you are alone, you have learned the secret of being happy. Now you can be happy together. If you are happy, then you have something to share, to give. And when you give you get; it is not the other way. Then a need arises to love somebody.
假如單獨時你能夠快樂,你便已學到快樂的秘密,現在你可以和人一起快樂。你若是快樂的,那麼,你便擁有能夠分享、給予的。當你給的時候,你便是在獲得;反過來卻非。然後,去愛他人的需要便升起。

Ordinarily the need is to be loved by somebody. It is a wrong need. It is a childish need; you are not mature. It is a child’s attitude.
一般,人的需要是要為人所愛,這是錯誤的需要,是孩子氣的需要,你是不成熟的,那是一種小孩子的態度。


A child is born. Of course, the child cannot love the mother; he does not know what love is and he does not know who is the mother and who is the father. He is totally helpless. His being is still to be integrated; he is not one piece; he is not together yet. He is just a possibility. The mother has to love, the father has to love, the family has to shower love on the child. Now he learns one thing: that everybody has to love him. He never learns that he has to love. Now the child will grow, and if he remains stuck with this attitude that everybody has to love him, he will suffer his whole life. His body has grown, but his mind has remained immature.

A mature person is one who comes to know the other need: that now I have to love somebody.

The need to be loved is childish, immature. The need to love is mature.
想要被愛的需要,是孩子氣的、不成熟的;去愛的需要,是成熟的。


And when you are ready to love somebody, a beautiful relationship will arise; otherwise not.

“Is it possible for two people in a relationship to be bad for each other?” Yes, that’s what is happening all over the world. To be good is very difficult. You are not good even to yourself. How can you be good to somebody else?

You don’t even love yourself! How can you love somebody else? Love yourself, be good to yourself.
你甚至不愛自己! 如何能愛別人? 愛你自己,善待自己。


Your so-called religious saints have been teaching you never to love yourself, never to be good to yourself. Be hard on yourself! They have been teaching you be soft towards others and hard towards yourself. This is absurd.

I teach you that the first and foremost thing is to be loving towards yourself. Don’t be hard; be soft. Care about yourself. Learn how to forgive yourself — again and again and again — seven times, seventy-seven times, seven hundred seventy-seven times. Learn how to forgive yourself. Don’t be hard; don’t be antagonistic towards yourself. Then you will flower.
我教導你,最首要的一件事情是,對自己具有愛心,不要嚴酷強硬,要柔軟,關心你自己,學習如何原諒自己,一再又一再地,七次,七十七次,七百七十七次,學習如何原諒自己,不要嚴酷強硬,不要對自己帶著敵意。那麼,你將會開花。

In that flowering you will attract some other flower. It is natural. Stones attract stones; flowers attract flowers. Then there is a relationship which has grace, which has beauty, which has a benediction in it. If you can find such a relationship, your relationship will grow into prayer;your love will become an ecstasy and through love you will know what the divine is.
花開之中,你將會吸引其它的花朵,這是自然的。石頭吸引石頭,花吸引花。然後,會有一段優雅與美麗的關係,擁有祝福在其中。假如你能找到如此的關係,你的關係將會成長為祈禱,你的愛將會變成狂喜。而透過愛,你將會知道什麼是神性。

Ecstasy: The Forgotten Language  摘自〔狂喜:被遺忘的語言〕

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